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How to talk to girls: 8 tips to catch her interest

1. Best 6 things to talk about with a girl
What should you actually say when you start talking to a girl? What do girls find interesting?

Here are 6 topics that are fun and easy to start off a conversation.

Movies, music, or books (What does she like? Figure out if you have anything in common.)
Goals and dreams (What does she dream of doing in the future?)
Family (Where are they from, does she have any siblings?)
Traveling (Does she have any travel plans? What’s the coolest place she’s visited?)
Work or school (What does she work with/what class does she like best?)
What she likes doing in her free time
These topic are great to start off with because most girls have something to say about it. When you’ve started talking you can go deeper and develop the conversation more from there.

If you ever run out of things to say, any of these topics are great to restart the conversation.

2. How to stop being nervous when talking to cute girls
For some of us, nervousness causes us to freeze up as soon as we’ve started talking to a girl we like. Even worse if we got a crush on her.

There are many reasons to feel nervous when we’ve started talking with a girl:

It feels like more is at stake
We’re afraid of rejection
We don’t have enough experience talking to girls
We become self-conscious around a cute girl we want to impress
I have 3 tricks to deal with nervosity (and shyness).

A. Focus on the girl instead of on yourself
Do this by putting your focus on what the girl is saying, how she’s feeling, what she wants. Ask yourself questions in your head about these things. Try to figure out who she really is.

When you switch your focus from yourself to her like this, something magical happens. Your nervosity and self-consciousness will start to disappear. That’s because your brain can’t focus on two things at the same time. So if you focus on the girl, you’ll make sure you stay present and avoid any extreme nervosity.

B. It’s better to be a bit nervous than not nervous at all
If you’re a bit nervous and it shines through, that can create a certain tension and intensity. That tension is good for the chemistry between you and the girl.

For example, if your voice starts to shake a little, it won’t turn her off. Instead, it helps make the interaction more exciting and genuine. It signals that this means something to you which makes it more interesting to the girl.

C. Acting with fear
Just because we are afraid doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do something. Even if your voice is shaking, we can still decide to make conversation with a girl we’re attracted to.

This is a powerful mindset known by behavioral scientists as acting with fear. It’s GREAT to be nervous and still do things you are afraid of. That’s how you conquer your fear.

It feels like fear is a sign to stop. But in reality, fear is a sign that something good is about to happen: That we are going to do something that will help us grow as a person.

4. Keep the conversation going for a little while. Ask her about people and places you both know. Respond lightly when she answers your questions, and use gentle humor to offer your opinions.
For example, if you both had a class with a teacher named Mr. Smith who always seemed tired, you could ask her about Mr. Smith, and respond with an observation about how tired he always looked when she answers your question.

5. Stay positive. Smile and don't be afraid to look at her while she's talking. Remember the old saying: “laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone.” We make our best impressions when we make others feel happy to be around us.[5]
Leave serious and sad topics out of this conversation. If one has to come up (for example, if she asks about someone and you know he just died), be honest, but don't let the conversation dwell in that spot. 

6. Take the initiative. If there's a lull in the conversation, but it's otherwise going well, tell her about a recent event in your life that has to do with one of your personal interests. Continuing with the musical example from previously, you might bring up a concert you recently attended or an album you recently bought.
Don't get too into your own interests. Keep it general enough that she can follow what's being said without having any special knowledge. Make plenty of room for her to interject or change the subject. The important thing is to keep your conversation interesting and alive.

7. Ask for her number. Tell her it was great to talk with her and suggest that the two of you get together again soon, then ask for her number. Depending on how slowly you want to take things, asking for a phone number outright might not always be an appropriate step, but it's a good middle ground between simply saying goodbye and asking her out on the spot.
Alternatively, just ask to be Facebook friends, or request her e-mail address. This is less blatantly an invitation to date than asking for a girl's number, and most people don't mind giving out online information. 

8. Walk away. Tell her you'll call (or otherwise contact) her soon and leave her with a smile and a wave. If all went well, you should be looking at a get-together or possibly even a first date within a week or two.

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  • Itstheanime Profile
    Nov 23, 2020 12:20
    Badly need this. Ahahahaha