Through out life, I started seeing other people how well they kept succeeding in their life, but why? Really… why? Was it luck? Was it hard work? What could possibly be the reason? What was their secret?
I knew that there should be a trick behind all this, but I was sure I was doing something wrong along my journey. I saw that their main focus was actually accomplishing their daily tasks, achieving their monthly goals, and prioritizing themselves as a FIRST option!
I couldn’t work on my dreams, because I was too “busy” chasing others dreams, and fulfilling their needs, not knowing that time is a treasure, which I was wasting incorrectly.
So, I slowly clicked… I came to a conclusion: I was doing the opposite of successful people all the time; I was giving my energy, my investment, and most of all — my time, to people whom weren’t even worth the effort.
Then… I changed something. I transformed myself. Became someone who was my number 1 fan, and started to collect my own puzzle, and yeah, many pieces were missing! I trained myself to say “no” to others, and “yes” to myself. I could notice their madness when I wasn’t available anymore, I could smell their anger, that I was finally capable of deciding where to put my good vibes, and not being their “slave”. And believe me, this is not a call to not help others, not even close to it!
But I can guarantee you this; you can never help others, if you don’t help yourself first.
It took me a long time to truly know my self-value, self-worth, to develop my self care in a daily basis, and as time passed by, I became a nurturer of my own soul. I learned how to treat and love myself.
Along the ride, I also noticed that people will always appreaciate you more, if you appreaciate yourself in the first place.
“The way you love yourself, is the way others will love you.”
But, as real as this quote is, I guess that there is another side of it… “Sometimes people will dislike you, when they see that you don’t dislike yourself.”
You can’t be available all the time. After you’re done with yourself, get out there, and make time for other people, but please, choose wisely — choose the right people to share your precious time, because time is the only gift that can’t be bought — and it can’t be taken back.
& Remember…
“No” might make them angry, but it shall set you free.”


https://medium.com/@fjollapllana/you-can-be-a-good-hearted-person-and-still-say-no-8671734d1088