Should you date someone who has cheated before?

During the lockdown, I have encountered stories on social media about "Love found on ECQ" and "Love amidst the pandemic". Well, I can't help but read their posts and like images which brought me joy knowing that they truly found the love they had hoped for.

I guess people nowadays have subscribed to online dating apps to find their perfect match. The most common are Tinder and FB Dating which show the photos and profile of the person. Heart button and swipe left are the functions you can find on those apps. Haha. Can you relate to this? Then this post is meant for you. 😊

Every person is created uniquely with special attributes. Others are gifted with wit while some are born with immense physical beauty. And when efforts and destiny meet, then we get into an exclusive relationship to find ourselves a lot happier than just being Single (oh yes, not sad nor lonely...hahahaha) just Single.

But the intriguing question here is: "Would you date a former cheater?"

I must admit that I had my own share of experience but I will not make this a version of my personal narrative. This post is intended to capture the idea on how to deal with the situation given that we all are susceptible to cheating or might be cheated in love specifically.

Firstly, we all have our own definition of cheating. Infidelity is the most common trait that attributed to cheating. It starts with a simple like on someone's FB post, changing your phone's passcode and other social media user information, and even the retention of dating apps which come with less to zero importance when you get into a relationship. 😅 Whatever the circumstances in the person's earlier life, you have to check various signals whether this person is willing to be transformed and have learned from his experience.

You probably think now that the other person is the problem here but I guess you should focus on yourself more. The main question you must ask: Am I the type who is going to worry about being cheated on? If the answer is yes, then don't get into the relationship. Insecurity kills your ability to grow and without trust, there is unlikely to build a strong foundation. Best example would be to check on his phone's messages, the hearts and the likes on his social media accounts, even the events he is going to attend or the travels he has to make.

Trust your Instinct. The last thing you do is to believe in yourself that the other person, who is a former cheater, will be honest and faithful with you. The direction of the relationship lies on the decisions you are going to make.

Life is about taking chances. Pain is inevitable in love. Everyone deserves to love and be loved with passion.

Guard your heart and find someone to love who will love you back and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.