Hi Guys, sharing with you! My experience as SAHM that I wrote Three(3) years ago. Hope you like it!

"I suddenly stop filling up my personal information on the ” Job: “ portion in a hospital where I attended health check up.  It’s my first time to put “housewife” instead of my almost 10th year career title from my previous work.  I felt sudden sadness in my heart and mind.  “I am supposed to be happy because I’m gonna be with my baby”, I thought.  But I can’t understand why I felt it that day.sad face emoji

What is SAHM? It is an abbreviation for Stay-At-Home Mom, as I searched in google. smiley emoji

A year and four months today, I became SAHM.  Why and How did it happen? There are various reasons why and how I decided to stop working, of course, with my husband permission.

I was sick that time, I had GERD or gastroesophageal reflux disease  –  almost four  (4) months before I got totally healed.  I can’t concentrate with my work.
And mainly, we can’t look better nanny for our baby – after having two (2) nanny problems, and there’s no relatives can help us to take care of our baby that will stay with us.
Oh, there is one option, we can send our baby to my parents but as a first time parents, we can’t sacrifice not seeing our baby for a long time. I also think it’s not a good idea to send my baby with them because they are still working and I will feel sorry for them if they will be tired and sick while baby sitting the baby at night ( because when they help me take care of my baby for a month my mother got sick and endure back pain, my poor nanay) though they are willing to do so.

There are things we consider before I decided to be a SAHM.

Finances – Are we able to survive with only one spouse working?

Mentally (emotions) – Am I prepared of immediate shift of role from workaholic person to full-time mom?

Physically – Am I able to handle all the baby stuffs and home stuffs all alone in five days a week?

           After considering these stuffs and thorough conversation with my husband we finally decided that I will be a full-time mother to our son.  Of the three above, my Emotional Aspect  is the hardest  part to accept.  For sometime, I feel depressed, because I feel worthless maybe because of thinking that, did I waste my grad school and accounting career?, I can no longer contribute from my earned money to our daily expenses and little bit of luxury for family and myself, and I can no longer add savings for our future.  Also, we can no longer do other things as before because we should budget my husband’s salary.  My mind and my heart won’t cooperate for sometime.  BUT, you know what, I fought my depression by keeping in mind and heart daily that taking care of my baby is the best job in the world.  And its TRUE!  I lost that feeling when I started to become stay at home with my baby and it’s the best feeling in the world!  This is worth it!, I thought.  I enjoyed the perks of being SAHM.

Perks of being Stay-at-Home Mom.

I know that My Son is in Good Hands
Unfortunately, we had an issues of my son’s last nanny.  We treat her as a family but I don’t know why she did that.  Maybe because she don’t much value our son and don’t have sense of responsibility.  I can’t elaborate all about this but I know every parent don’t want their child hurt in any way.  Now, being with my baby gave us peace of mind.

I can see all my son’s milestone (development)
When he became one year old I didn’t saw all of his milestone because of the nature of my job.  Though, I didn’t see his first time “dapa” laying face down, crawl, walk, now I encounter the feeling when the first time he run, climb, baby talk, memorizing alphabet, knowing basic colors and shape and counting one to ten.  There is an unexplained feeling when you first see and heard him doing that.

And, I can attend all my son’s need.
I don’t worry about taking all my time giving my attention to my son especially when he is sick.  I don’t no longer  in a rush taking care of him because of the reason of going to work and sometimes I do bring paper works at home.  No more times, that I would be gone before he woke up in the morning and wouldn’t get home until he was already fast asleep.  I have more time to teach him baby songs, new words, continuation of learning numbers, exploring new things with him.  I have also the time to take care of his physical grooming like brushing his teeth ( I honestly feel sorry for my baby of not taking care of his teeth when I was working). sad face emoji  I also have more time to play with him.  I also have the time to stroll with him.  I can now start to teach him good manners and about God.  And of course, I want to make him feel that I’m always with him and his Daddy when he need us.smiley emoji

It may sound simple reasons to others and sometimes they criticize SAHM, but for those who can relate with me and people who understand me will say that its good that you chose to be Stay-At-Home Mom, Kat.  Maybe we have different reasons and situations but what more important is giving the Best for our children. smiley emoji

My Co-Mama and Papa, How was your experience as Stay at Home Parent? Smile, You are doing well =)