Easy to say but very hard to apply to oneself. You can say you love the way you are but still wants to follow other people’s footsteps. You keep changing yourself even though it’s not what you really are, change is good but change for the better, change into a better version of you. People still listen to what society wants, what they want to see, what they want to hear and witness. Even if it means changing your very own self, so that we can be loved by other people.
I was once a victim of the society’s standards, i was a shy and timid girl that people will only talk to if they need something from me. I didn’t mind it at first but they keep taking advantage of it. I was a nobody that they only know when they need some help. I remained quiet I made friends with other people, I started opening up to others. Still I didn’t change my appearance everyday i would hate on myself for being fat and ugly. I really hated myself that even though i made other friends i still love the people that once used me for their benefits. Even though I changed myself into someone that they can talk to, as someone that they can approach anytime, they still treated me as someone that they can only call when they need help, well that’s what i showed to them. Since then I learned how to refuse, how to say no to others, it made me free from the tangles of people’s expectations. Society may accept you, society may keep you inside their group but you will remain unknown just because you want to fit in to the society’s expectations. You forget to yourself, you forget to experience the things that make you really happy. This may not be a good news to all of you but this can be a lesson to everyone that keeps changing their selves just to be loved by others.