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Lets us all apply 'The 7 habits of extremely successful individuals by Stephen Covey' in this year 2021!

Lets us all apply 'The 7 habits of extremely successful individuals by Stephen Covey' in this year 2021!

The Maturity Scale is  presented by Covey. There are three phases of growing maturity in succession: dependency, independence, and interdependence. Everyone is dependent at birth, and dependency features can linger; this is the first and lowest stage of maturity.
"Dependence means you need others to get what you need. All of us began life as an infant, depending on others for nurturing and sustenance. I may be intellectually dependent on other people's thinking; I may be emotionally dependent on other people's affirmation and validation of me. Dependence is the attitude of "you": you take care of me... or you don't come through and I blame you for the result.

Independence means you are pretty much free from the external influence [and] support of others. ... Independence is the attitude of "I". ... It is the avowed goal of many individuals, and also many social movements, to enthrone independence as the highest level of achievement, but it is not the ultimate goal in effective living. There is a far more mature and more advanced level.

The third and highest level in the Maturity Continuum is interdependence. ... We live in an interdependent reality. Interdependence is essential for good leaders; good team players; a successful marriage or family life; in organizations. Interdependence is the attitude of "we": we can co-operate; we can be a team; we can combine our talents."

— Stephen Covey, The 7 habits of highly effective people (1998)

Each of the first three habits is intended to help achieve independence. The next three habits are intended to help achieve interdependence. The final, seventh habit is intended to help maintain these achievements.


The first three habits surround moving from dependence to independence (i.e., self-mastery)
1. Be proactive.

Take responsibility for your response to your experiences, take the initiative and change the situation to respond positively. Recognize your Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence. Focus and initiate your responses on the core of your influence and work to expand it constantly. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting before taking action for issues to happen (Circle of Concern).

2 - Begin with the end in mind
In the future, imagine what you want so that you can work and plan for it. Understand how individuals in their lives make choices. You need to act based on values and continually review your mission statements to be effective. Are you who you want to be - right now? What am I supposed to think about myself? How would you like to be remembered? If habit 1 advises changing your life to act and be proactive, habit 2 advises that you are the programmer! Grow and stay humble.
Twice are all things made. We have to behave in our minds first before we act. We test twice prior to making something. This is about what the theory is. Do not just act; think first: is this how I want it to go, and are these the right implications?

3 - First things first
This will talk about what is important and what is urgent. Priority should be given in the following order.
 I. Immediate and critical (Do)-significant deadlines and emergencies
 II. Not urgent yet substantial (Plan)-Long-term growth.
 III. Urgent but not major (Delegate)-deadline distractions
 IV. Not urgent (Eliminate) and not important-frivolous distractions
The order is important; we should spend the majority of our time on II after completing items in  I, but many individuals spend too much time on III and IV. The delegation and exclusion calls are powerful reminders of their relative priority.
If you are the programmer advised by habit 2, habit 3 advises: write the program, become a master! Maintain personal integrity: what you are saying vs. what you are doing.

The next three habits talk about Interdependence (e.g., working with others):

4 - Think win-win
Genuine emotions in your relationships for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements. In the end, value and appreciation for individuals by recognizing a "win" for all is a better long-term outcome than if only one person in the situation had gotten their way. Think Win-Win is not about being sweet, nor is it a technique of quick-fixing. It is a code for human interaction and communication that is character-based.

5 - Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Use empathic listening to better understand a person, which forces them to reciprocate the listening and to be affected by you with an open mind. This provides a compassionate and constructive problem-solving environment.
Habit 5 is firmly accepted by three terms in Greek philosophy:
1) Ethos—your individual reputation. It's the trust you inspire, the Emotional Bank Account.
2) Pathos is the empathetic side—it is the alignment of contact with the emotional trust of another person.
3) Logos is the logic — the part of the presentation's rationale.

The order is essential: ethos, pathos, logos—your character and relationships, and then your presentation's logic.

6 - Synergize!
To accomplish goals that no one could have done alone, combine the abilities of individuals through constructive teamwork.

Continual improvement
The final habit is that in both the personal and interpersonal spheres of power, continuous improvement.

7 - Sharpen the Saw; Growth

In order to build a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle, align and renew your finances, energy, and health. It mainly emphasizes physical renewal exercise, good prayer (meditation, yoga, etc.), and good mental renewal reading. Service to society for spiritual regeneration is also stated.

Check the book of Stephen Covey, The 7 habits of highly effective people (1998) for more powerful and info to be successful individual.
The idea of paradigm shift is also introduced by Covey and allows the reader to realize that there are different viewpoints, i.e. that two people can see the same thing and yet differ from each other.