Are the type of person that does not easily communicate with strangers? Or even to people you've long known? Or are you the type of person that is like an open book? The one who can easily share his/her story to everybody? 

They say, most of the time, it's better to open ourselves up to strangers. Because they can't judge us, and the story they'll only hear is ours. Thus, we get a better judgement. But on the other hand, it's also better to open to someone you know. Because they can give wider and more on point advises. It's just that most the time too, it's more likely to be bias. 

BUT, what if you're just the person who doesn't open up thing? For many reasons like being uncomfortable, being judged and misunderstood. Will you just let all the emotions and feelings inside your chest pile up and burst one day when you can no longer handle it? Personally, I think it's unhealthy. Once in a while we need to vent out in order to breathe. 

The question is... how do you actually make yourself comfortable to open up to people?

Here are some ways that may help:
1. REDUCING YOUR PERSONAL FILTER
- As stated earlier, the most common reasons why people are afraid to open up and share some things is the fact that we are afraid of how others will react. If you want  be comfortable in  and feel safe to open up, consider reducing the filter you use for "judging" the world around you. Same as to the people who will listen to you. 

2. REDUCE SMALL TALK
- Because we are afraid of being judged, we keep out a lot of ideas and feelings. Yes, I know that we cannot really share everything to people. But, instead of talking about what we really want, we put on a sort of filter and spend the time discussing other "safe" topics.

3. SHARE SOMETHING WEIRD
- You can also start by sharing something weird to people but not to the point that it will make you look crazy. It is like a starting point for you and also to see if the person is comfortable for weird stories. As to the listener, this may apply too. Sharing something slightly odd about you will signal to the other person that you don't really care about what others think and also that you are not a judgemental person.

4. MAKE SURE YOUR VALUE IS HIGH ENOUGH
- The higher your value, the easier it is to get away with saying something weird.

5. ASSUMPTION QUESTIONS
- It is also a great way to open up by asking questions with the likes of how that will lead you in opening yourself up.

Disclaimer, these may not work for all. It's still up to the person whether he/she wants to share and open up. As listeners, we may be curious, but we must not force the, Even they are somebody who we been with for a long time. There really are people who are not comfortable in the idea of sharing things to people. Let's just respect that.